The Follower Illusion
We've been sold a lie about what connection looks like online. But 10,000 followers who scroll past your content aren't worth the same as 10 people who genuinely care about you.
Real community isn't measured in metrics. It's felt in the DMs that check on you when you've been quiet.
What Authentic Community Feels Like
You know you've found it when:
- You can be honest about struggles
- Engagement goes both ways
- It extends beyond one platform
- People show up when it matters
Building LGBTQ+-Specific Community Online
For queer folks, authentic digital community has additional dimensions:
Shared Understanding: There's something powerful about community where you don't have to explain yourself.
Chosen Family: Digital spaces often become where we find our chosen family, especially if biological family isn't supportive.
Mentorship: Connecting with those who've navigated the path before us is invaluable.
Collective Care: LGBTQ+ communities often include active care for each other's wellbeing.
How to Build Authentic Community
Start by Being Authentic Yourself
Show up as a real person with opinions and humanity.
Engage Meaningfully
Stop the drive-by likes. When you engage, make it count.
Create Space for Others
Facilitate connection, not just broadcast content.
Go Deeper
Move beyond surface-level engagement when natural opportunities arise.
Choose depth. Choose realness. Choose community.
Who has been a meaningful part of your online community? Give them a shoutout.
